Help! My child does not want to go to school

Preschool offers a myriad of opportunities for kids to interact with others and learn valuable life lessons. It also prepares them for kindergarten, primary school and beyond. As such, it’s incumbent that children get the necessary education as soon as possible.

However, not all children are excited to attend school. They might feel anxious entering a new environment filled with unfamiliar kids and teachers, and of course, might not want to part ways with their parents. Find out more about preschool in Singapore at https://ourfirststeps.com.sg/admiralty/.

Here are a few ways to help your child get ready for school:

Ease your child’s fears

To prepare your child for school, spend time talking about it before the semester starts. Gradually introduce your child to activities that typically occur in a classroom week or even months before school. This way, your child will not have a difficult time acclimatising between home and school. For example, a child who’s used to colouring on paper with crayons will find it comforting to discover the paper and crayons in the preschool classroom.

To ease worries about unfamiliar territory, if possible, visit the preschool a few times with your child before school starts. This not only prepares them mentally for school but might also get them excited. These visits are also a chance for you to meet your child’s teacher and ask questions about common activities and routines. You can introduce some of these routines at home so that your child becomes familiar.

While in the classroom, allow your child to observe the environment and interact with the teachers and other kids. This helps them to familiarise themselves with the people and the classroom. While at it, take the opportunity to ask the teacher how first days are like — will the first week be dedicated to creating a smooth transition? What happens if the kids cry?

During this transition, it’s important not to emphasise too much on the change too as it could make your child’s anxiety worst. Be careful not to exhibit any signs too — children can pick up on parents’ nonverbal cues, so if you feel guilty or worried, your kids can probably sense that too. In other words, the more calm and assured you are, the more confident your child will be too.

Make a good first day

The first day is going to be difficult, but there are some ways to get through it. First, reintroduce the teacher to your child, and then allow them to bond and form a relationship. By endorsing the teacher, you are showing your child that he or she is safe in the teacher’s care. Say a loving goodbye and leave promptly. Do not sneak out. It might be tempted to sneak out so you don’t have to deal with the goodbye, but leaving without a word can make children feel abandoned. A long goodbye on the other hand might also make your child cling more and give the impression that a school is a bad place.

As a tip, some parents practice consistent farewells when dropping off their kids to school every day. This could be waving from outside the classroom window or making a funny goodbye face. Most preschools begin with a daily ritual, such as sharing sessions. Young kids tend to respond to this kind of predictability, and a routine can ease the transition from home to school.

Most importantly, make sure a school staff member is ready to welcome your child when you arrive. Some kids may gel in and adjust immediately, but others might need a private cuddle from a caregiver first.

Regularly communicate with your children and their teachers

Ask your children what they like and dislike about school and focus on them. For example, they may like colouring sessions or playing with their classmates. Constantly remind them of these things so they look forward to school more. If there’s anything they dislike, find out what the problem is and try to help. Be involved and show that you care and notice and try not to criticise. The first few years of a child’s education are crucial as they shape how he/she views school in the future.

Since teachers are the ones looking after your little ones most of the time in school, they may have observed certain activities your children are good at. You may reinforce these interests at home.

Teach your kids the importance of friendship

Having friends can be excellent motivation for kids to enjoy school. When everyone gets along well and have fun with each other, the school will definitely be a much more enjoyable environment. Encourage your children to meet new friends, teach them appropriate manners and tell them the importance of sharing. These are things that will put them on the path of establishing good relationships with others.

 

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Double Eyelid Singapore – Which Type of Double Eyelid Procedure is Best Suited for You?

It is no secret that double eyelid surgery is the most popular cosmetic procedure in Singapore and other Asian countries. There’s really nothing wrong medically with having single eyelids or monolids. Having monolids doesn’t make your vision worse or give your eyes less protection.

Every year, thousands of men and women born with monolids go to aesthetic clinics to get a double eyelid in Singapore.  If you are thinking of getting double eyelid surgery, then read this article from trusted doctors at Ubiqi to learn more about the procedure.

Why is Double Eyelid Surgery Very Popular?

Before and after double eyelid surgery

Many Asian men and women still get double eyelid surgery because double eyelids are believed to be more attractive, especially in Asian cultures like Singapore. Double eyelids also give the eyes a more alert and lively appearance compared to monolids. Also, since a lot of Singaporean women use eye makeup or eyelid tape regularly to achieve that double eyelid look, getting double eyelid surgery is a logical next step for a more permanent result.

Besides these cosmetic reasons though, there are also other reasons that a person may seek double eyelid surgery. For example, there are cases where a patient has a monolid on one eye and a double eyelid on the other one. Due to the asymmetry of their eyelids, patients decide to get double eyelid surgery to make their eyes look even and symmetrical.

Two Types of Double Eyelid Surgery (Blepharoplasty)

Double eyelid surgery is a delicate procedure, and depending on the patient, he/she may have different goals with the procedure. For example, some patients want to have a quicker and less painful experience while some want results that last for a lifetime. Depending on what they want, patients could choose from two types of double eyelid surgery:

  1. Non-Incisional Double Eyelid Surgery
  2. Incisional Double Eyelid Surgery

Each of these two types has its own advantages over each other, and there are certain cases where one is preferred over the other. Read on to learn their differences.

Doctor surgeon hand on patient face

Non-Incisional Double Eyelid Surgery

This type of double eyelid surgery is also known as the stitching method (Dream Plastic Surgery performs both this and the incisional method). This method uses sutures that are stitched through cuts along the top eyelid which are then pulled and tightened to form the desired eyelid crease.

Before the stitching, you will first be administered some anaesthesia to reduce your discomfort during the procedure. Your eyelid will then be measured and marked carefully. After this, multiple tiny punctures are made along the marks. These sutures are then stitched through these punctures, which will not be visible on your eyelid. There’s no need for you to have these sutures removed in the future.

The procedure is done in about 15 to 40 minutes depending on the complexity. There may be some mild swelling and bruising around the eyelid area, which should disappear in a few days. When it comes to downtime, it usually only lasts for about a week for the recovery of most of my patients. The full results should also appear around a month after the procedure and will last for 1 to 2 years.

Although the effects of this procedure aren’t permanent, many patients prefer this due to the quicker procedure, shorter recovery time and being a reversible process. This method also requires better care and discipline so take note of this before making a decision.

Incisional Double Eyelid Surgery

The other method of doing double eyelid surgery is by making an incision on the eyelid to create the crease. In addition to creating the eyelid crease, extra fat from the eyelids is also removed. Once this is done, the incision is then stitched to form the desired crease.

Similar to the non-incisional method, you will be put under anaesthesia as well. The whole procedure takes about an hour to finish, and you will have to get the sutures removed after about 4 or 5 days. There will be a longer downtime compared to the stitching method, lasting about 2 weeks to a month.

One advantage of this method over the stitching technique is that it can also be used to fix other eyelid problems such as extra skin and droopy eyelids. Take note that the effects of the incisional double eyelid surgery are permanent and irreversible. If you want a tighter-looking and more defined appearance of your double eyelids, then you’ll want to get the incisional method.

Which Type Should You Choose?

As mentioned, there are distinct differences between the two methods of double eyelid surgery.

Experts at Ubiqi recommend the non-incisional type to patients who:

  • want to try out a double eyelid look but wants the fallback of being able to reverse the effects
  • want a quicker recovery time and lesser downtime
  • don’t want any visible scars
  • have thin eyelids

On the other hand, the incisional type is recommended to patients who:

  • want a clearly defined eyelid crease
  • want results that last permanently
  • have thick layers of eyelid fat
  • have asymmetrical eyes